No Children Yet? Make the Most of This Season of Life

By Gina Saverino

The latest TikTok trend has single women and young couples bragging about their child-free lifestyles. A viral video from last September featured podcast host Julia Muzur gloating about her Saturday activities as a 29-year-old with no husband or children to care for. Another popular fad is young couples proudly identifying as “DINKs” (Dual Income, No Kids).

While I support the idea that young couples shouldn't rush into parenthood prematurely, I'm concerned about how some are spending their abundant free time. 

Many young adults today are engrossed in a hollow existence, engaging in activities that contribute little meaning to their lives or society. They may binge-watch shows, sleep until late afternoon, scroll through social media aimlessly, and otherwise indulge in pursuits that fuel self-centered behavior.

I believe that timing is crucial when it comes to starting a family. No one should be pressured into parenthood before they're ready or shamed for being single. However, in a season of life before you find your spouse and welcome children into the world, you should broaden your life and soul beyond mere consumption of entertainment and material goods.

Spend time with other people’s children

The proverb, “it takes a village,” holds true in raising a well-rounded person. Scheduling quality time with the kids of your family or friends not only provides a break for the parents but also prepares you for parenthood when the time is right.

Deepen your faith in God

Cultivate and nurture your faith during this season. This is an ideal window to strengthen your bond with God by dedicating more time to attending church, studying the Bible, and praying.

Volunteer and become involved in your community

Utilize this time to contribute to your community by volunteering at a nursing home or animal shelter or by serving on your local community board.

Learn to grow your own food

Buying groceries for a full family can be expensive, especially under the Biden administration. Becoming resourceful and starting your own garden will be extremely beneficial and cost-effective in the long run.

Learn about herbal medicine

Rather than rely solely on big pharma for minor ailments, explore the natural gifts provided by God, such as plant remedies.

Master the arts of cooking and baking

Frequently ordering take-out is not only a financial drain, but it also means you're ingesting the unhealthy seed oils commonly used in restaurants. It's important for your own bodily wellness to master the cooking basics and a repertoire of go-to dishes before starting a family. You can practice by cooking for your partner, neighbors, and parents.

Read books (instead of doom scrolling)

Instead of spending hours wasting time and energy scrolling on social media, opt for reading. It enhances your intelligence and makes you more interesting as you’ll have more topics to bring to conversation.

Adopt an exercise routine

Discover an effective workout routine that you genuinely enjoy to maintain your health throughout your adult life. It's a process of trial-and-error until you find what works best for your body and feels good to you.

Deepen your relationship with your significant other

Young couples should spend time strengthening their relationship with their significant other, ensuring they’re aligned on fundamentals such as values, religion, financial goals, and parenting.

And if you’re single? Use this time to date and find your person.

Gina Saverino is a fashion industry professional based in New York. She specializes in merchandising and financial planning for women’s apparel.